The Couple Check-In
Designed by BearmoreWhen did you last check in with each other?
Use this Burst to swap out a rushed morning where you’re both on different tracks for one that connects you in the same moments together. Cook together, say what you appreciate about each other, share a quiet moment, then eat without the distraction of phones buzzing.
The runsheet
Cook it together
Cooking (mindful)Cook something simple together, sharing the jobs. The point is doing it side by side, not so much the finished product.
20 min activityBearmore’s thoughts on doing cooking (mindful) before gratitude
This pairing is especially effective because aromas and colours already spark up appreciation, so pausing now lets thankfulness surface easily and sincerely.
Appreciation
GratitudeSay out loud one thing you appreciate about each other and one thing about the day. Brief, specific, genuine.
5 min activityBearmore’s thoughts on doing gratitude before meditation (compassion)
This is an excellent pairing because compassion practice builds on grateful feelings, expanding your caring attention outward to others or to yourself.
Meditate together
Meditation (compassion)A short shared moment of compassion for each others. Sitting together in meditation, there’s no need to talk.
10 min activityBearmore’s thoughts on doing meditation (compassion) before eating (mindful)
This is an excellent pairing because compassion could quiet the food-related self-criticism that often turns mindful eating into another arena for judgment.
Eat with no distractions
Eating (mindful)Eat what you prepared, slowly, without your phones chiming in. Give the meal your full attention.
10 min activityTime well spent.
1h 5m spent doing something good for yourself.
The breakdown
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About this Burst
A slow morning for two, for couples who are passing each other in the kitchen most days. Start with cooking something together, spend some time on what you appreciate about each other and the day, share a short moment of compassion through meditation, and then sit down to eat without being distracted by screens. This is to reconnect, not to just go through the motions. Scale the cooking to whatever time you have.